An oldie but a goodie. And the exact opposite of Tiger Mom, which I read just before this.
- when people are under stress they become egocentric and do not -- cannot -- appreciate other people's needs or interests.
- If we take some of the pressure off schools and school administrators, we will take some of the pressure off children.
- If we are asking too much and hurrying our children developmentally or energetically, we can either cut back on our demands or increase our supports.
- children are most like us in their feelings and least like us in their thougthts.
- We need to respond to a child's feeling more than to her intellect. By responding to the young child's feelings, we lessen the stress of hurrying.
- If we summarize the way in which the three age groups react to hurrying, we might say that young children tend to blame themselves, children tend to blame the world, and adolescents tend to blame their parents.
- adolescents pay us back in their teen years for all the sins, real or imagined, that we committed against them when they were children. [able to process and react by then. - didn't have the mental capacity before]
- play is nature's way of dealing with stress for children as well as adults
- if we concentrate on the here and now, without worrying about yesterday or tomorrow, our children will do likewise.
So what do i take away from this? That I really need to be nice so they don't turn out to be monsters as teenagers?
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